Contra bon mores?

Talking about GAYS and MORALITY, one can never arrogantly forget the Hart v Devlin debate. If one were to repeats the ideas and principles again and again without citing their wisdom, I would not even entertain.

Recently, there has been lots of movements popping out from nowhere, I guess it must be the post-effect of Bersih and the Arab Spring, despite everyone would think that would be over-simplistic to draw such a fallacy of logic.

Now, in Malaysia, with the sudden establishment of Jaringan Melayu Malaysia ( JMM) headed by Azwan Hamzah, the gay rights movement will embark on a steeper, thornier path.

On the other hand, the establishment of Malaysian Gay Rights Movement of Facebook Group is rather surprising to me. For several reasons : 1. Ambiguous mission and vission of the group - intertwined with Bersih's cause without even acknowledgement from Bersih, 2. Sudden grouping of the interested gays in it within a short period of time.

Now, the question is, as follows:

1. How do we start off one movement, considering there are several FB groups, i.e.: Sexualiti Merdeka, PFLAG Malaysia, MST Rainbow Community Support Center, LGBTIQPA, TSG, Penang Freedom to Love, Sunduvan Refuge Community, Lelaki Seperti Aku, TT1069马来西亚交友区, etc.

2. What are the common principles that underlies all these groups in heading for the betterment of the unified mission and vision?

3. What are the strategies and plans and short term and long term missions of these group movement?

4. Shall we wait for the community to maturize to a certain extent and only when time is fine, weather is good, we strike? or Shall we start doing considering the threat and danger posed to LGBTs every single day by the current government?

In relation to the strategies: it must be divided into many, one of which :

to prevail the social relevancy of this movement as to the practical future of a gay couple.

See => I surmise that all gay couples in Malaysia are doomed to end up breaking up, that including me. The logic is one hard cold fact that gay couples could not deny.

20 - 30 years old : Gay couples - happily to be together - learning each other - emo-ing for the unrequited love - at the end of the 20s, three roads prevail -

1. bored -> break up; two human beings living together without a common goal would definitely end up this.

2. still good -> accustomed to each other and accommodate to each other;

3. getting a true relationship turned non traditional** ( I reluctant to further elaborate - PM for more )

30 - 40 years old : Still the process continues, repeats - flavored and added with gym session, periodical travel to different big, small countries, social circles turning bigger, sex practice turns non usual : Now, three roads prevail -

1. bored -> break up; two human beings living together without a common goal would definitely end up this.

2. still good ? I doubt - after for having 20 years together without any legal restriction to the relationship ? I doubt, ponder again and again.

3. Viscous circle repeats over again and again for 40s-50s. But perhaps, the elders realize, it's time to "help out" the community by joining groups - commenting - donating - writing - and thinking for the betterment of the groups.

Apparently, studies show average life span of modern gay peep = 42 years old.

Of course, taking that as a general principle, it would mean no old gays could live up beyond that age - and even if they do, they are mostly either single OR in a relationship of non conventional one the heterosexual would anticipate.

The question remains: What then it's good for 2 men to get together?

My answer: The common goal.

Referring the time line to a heterosexual couples. The general, common goals of heterosexual couple : Get married - give birth - raise kids - extra, common X factor (*lubricant of the relationship ) - to be grandpa and ma - died.

Predetermined common goals set by traditional society have given them limited ways not to procreate and given the chance too, everyone would love to see their blood passed to a new body, unless for personal reason they are unable to.

Thus, my advice for cute, hot gay couples : Think about a future - it would then, relevant to join movements to ensure the mission and goals of the movement brings general beneficial rights to the couples - and secure a relationship where the laws recognize and be enforced.

As of now, every gay couple would only ends up breaking, except they were to move to oversea for future betterment.

Cheers
Jackson Yee CS